6 Facts You May Not Know About Loneliness

We have all left lonely at some point. It's a normal feeling as humans are wired for social interaction. As we are all different, our experiences differ massively too. You can live alone and feel content, but be part of a big household and feel lonely. However, we are unanimous in feeling that loneliness should be minimised and we could all benefit from more connection in our lives.


A crucial step we need to take to building connections and communities is to normalise loneliness. Much like an elephant in a room, ignoring it won't make it leave. Together we can normalise loneliness by understanding it and talking about itUnderstanding loneliness, destigmatising it and facing it are the first steps to minimising it.


Since the global pandemic, one in four Brits has identified themselves as lonely, and millions have experienced social isolation. It is a feeling many people will have, but by not talking about it little progress is made to overcome it. This inconsistency made us think of other things we may not know or fully understand about loneliness and social isolation.


In the past few years, neuroscientists and psychologists have been researching the topic, and we have compiled some of the most insightful facts about loneliness and social isolation to help get the conversation started.


1. The difference between social isolation and loneliness

Social isolation means you do not have enough people to interact with, whereas loneliness is how you think about or perceive your situation. Someone who feels lonely may have family and friends nearby, but still experience feelings of loneliness. Social isolation is an objective measure of the number of contacts that people have. Social isolation is about the quantity but not necessarily the quality of relationships. Both concepts can lead to the other and both can occur at the same time.


2. Socialising is as important as eating

MRI scans have picked up that hunger and loneliness activate the same area in the brain. This suggests that socialisation is a human need as much as food and water. Being in isolation has you craving socialisation as much as fasting has you craving food. Scientists even uncovered that hungry people were less responsive to socialising stimulus, supporting the concept of “hanger", the irritable state you can be in when hungry. The good news is that loneliness is as reversible as hunger!


3. A warm hot shower is like a warm hug

It was found that people who experience loneliness have used physical warmth, such as taking longer hotter showers, as a substitute for social warmth. This was even extended to people who were socially excluded in experiments opting for hot drinks and food over cold.


4. Television can help people feel connected

At Together TV we are all about doing more than just watching telly. However, television can make life a little easier when you are lonely and having to isolate. Watching television is particularly comforting for older generations as it can help them remain connected to the outside world. It can help sharpen minds, keep viewers informed of what's going on and also offer conversation topics. Learn gardening tips with Charlie Dimmock and the Rich Brothers in Garden Rescue, take a trip down memory lane with some of our rich historical documentaries or just see what is on today.


5. Loneliness can be spread

Feeling lonely can be contagious. The emotions expressed by people who experience loneliness can have a similar negative impact on people, creating a chain reaction of rejection and isolation. Research has actually found that most people experiencing loneliness are linked to other people who feel lonely and even non-lonely people who are around lonely people can gradually experience loneliness.


6. Changing your attitude is the most effective loneliness intervention

Whilst increasing your access to socialising, your social skills and social support network are all ways to overcome loneliness, changing the way you think can have the biggest impact. Negative thought patterns are a classic human pitfall. Changing them takes hard work, but it is effective.


So, if you are feeling lonely, pause. Try to identify the automatic negative thoughts - such as assuming people don't want to hear from you - and reframe that thought as a theory rather than fact. What are the facts? Is that person perhaps busy? Are they maybe also feeling lonely and don't want to bring you down? Or have they lost their voice? Let's limit jumping to conclusions; be kind to yourself. 


The Jo Cox Foundation's Great Get Together and Marmalade Trust produced an Understanding Loneliness Tool Kit providing resources and advice for facing social isolation and loneliness. For Loneliness Awareness Week, the Marmalade Trust have also created a Random Acts of Connection generator to help inspire you how to connect. Give it a read for more advice on how to start understanding and talking about loneliness. 


By understanding more about loneliness, we can start having more conversations to break down barriers and find out what each individual needs to feel less lonely. Whether it’s a weekly phone call, a helping hand with household chores or a pen pal, start the conversation today and strive for a connected community. 


The Great Get Together has also inspired our other blogs on connection by saying thanks, reaching out, showing you care and understanding loneliness.



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