Silver Sex Guide

Introduction

Welcome to Together TV’s Silver Sex Guide, your guide to better sex in the third (and best!) phase of life.
In this guide you will find useful and friendly advice that can help your relationship,
your health and add some hot sauce to things in the bedroom.

However, our wider society may still have outdated attitudes and is misinformed about sex in later life,
as well as sexuality amongst older people.

We’re here to bring some energy and positivity to counter the agism and the stereotypes!

Understanding the Guide

Each part is broken down into bite-sized step-by-step guides which should get you to expert level
in no time. Plus there are some handy Further Reading links along the way too.

So without further delay - tantric or otherwise - let’s jump into the Silver Sex Guide.

Let’s Talk About Sex

Part 1

Focussing on understanding how you can improve your sex life through better communication with your partner. This runs from getting a better understanding of each other’s needs through to being much more open about your true desires.

Get Your Mojo Back Express Yourself Honesty is the best policy

Let’s Get it On

Part 2

Getting down to all things amorous, intimate and erotic, alongside embracing your body and understanding the physical changes, limitations and freedoms that come with sex.

Having a ball Being Sex-ready Silver-sutra -sex positions from tame to wild

Sexual Healing

Part 3

Finally, we cover all the benefits that a healthy sex life can bring - from better health, to enhanced sense of wellbeing and even to improved brainpower.

Health issues Talking to your doctor Sex is good for you!

The Benefits of Sex

We know that good sex supports our health and wellbeing at all ages - it boosts our immune system, burns calories, lowers
blood pressure and other health risks, keeps our partners close and can help us live longer. And it makes us happy!

And what younger people may not know is that a lot of research has found sex gets better with age.

We get more comfortable in our bodies and are often more adventurous in trying new things.
Plus we have nearly as much sex as people in their thirties.

Sex in the Third Age

Let’s be honest - getting older brings both challenges and wonderful new possibilities. Yes, we might experience more losses of loved ones, and our own mortality might feel more real. These feelings are completely natural and it’s important to acknowledge them.

Our bodies change too, and managing health conditions or medications can feel like juggling sometimes! And while getting older and heading into retirement might mean saying goodbye to the nine-to-five, it also opens doors to exciting new adventures and ways to reinvent ourselves. There are plenty of ways to live life to the full.

Keeping Your Spark Alive

Here are some delightful ways to maintain your zest for life:

Give your body a favour by saying goodbye to cigarettes
Enjoy your favourite tipple in moderation
Treat yourself to colourful, nutritious meals that make your taste buds dance
Find physical activities that bring you joy - whether it’s dancing, swimming, or yoga
Keep your mind buzzing with new learning adventures
Master the art of relaxation - you’ve earned it!
Spice up life by trying something new and unexpected
Connect with like-minded souls through social groups
Build wonderful relationships with your neighbours
Nurture those special connections that make life richer

Our later years can be some of our most fulfilling – especially when we take care of ourselves and stay open to life’s continuing adventures!

Let’s Talk About Pleasure

As life’s journey continues, our relationship with intimacy and pleasure might change – and that’s perfectly natural. Some of us might find our interest in sex evolving, while others may have always preferred different forms of connection. There’s no ‘right’ way to feel, and every path is valid.

Various life changes can influence our intimate lives - whether it's health challenges, becoming single, losing a beloved partner, or simply feeling that relationships need a fresh spark.

Remember though, intimacy is about so much more than sex - it's about warmth, closeness, touch, excitement and wellbeing.

If you're on your own or experiencing changes in your sex life, there are wonderful ways to keep that spark of sensuality and joy alive:

Embrace Your Sensual Side

Let your body move to music that makes your heart sing
Treat yourself to delicious meals that awaken your taste buds
Wear clothes that make you feel fabulous and confident
Create moments that make you feel special in your own unique way

Explore What Brings You Joy

Indulge in romantic films starring your favourite actors – even the NHS¹ recommends a good sexy film to explore your interests and have fun
Lose yourself in passionate literature that stirs your imagination
Take time to explore self-pleasure - it's healthy and natural!
Discover new hobbies that make your heart beat faster
Surround yourself with loving friends and family

Pleasure and intimacy come in many forms, and every chapter of life brings its own opportunities for joy and connection. The key is finding what makes YOU feel wonderful!

Finding Love and Romance – Dating Nowadays

The excitement of new romance doesn’t come with an age limit. Whether you’re 17 or 70, butterflies in your stomach when meeting someone special are just as thrilling. Yes, putting yourself out there takes courage, but remember – your perfect match won’t simply appear by magic!

Dating at any age brings its wonderful highs and occasional lows, but that's all part of life's great adventure. The key is to embrace the journey with an open heart and a splash of wisdom.

Wonderful Ways to Meet New People

Join groups based around activities you love - from book clubs to walking groups
Nurture your friendships - friends often make the best matchmakers!
Let your social circle know you're ready for romance
Get involved in your local community
Explore dating columns in newspapers and magazines
Try social clubs and afternoon gatherings
Consider online dating

The Digital Dating Scene

Online dating has become increasingly popular among our age group, with an impressive eight million British people now using dating websites². And here's some good news - research shows it's leading to many successful relationships and marriages!

Staying Safe While Having Fun

While dating should be enjoyable, it's important to look after yourself. Here are some friendly tips for those first dates:

Meeting Up

Choose public places like lovely cafés or restaurants for initial meetings
Start with a simple coffee date - it's easier to keep things brief if needed
Keep a trusted friend informed of your plans and whereabouts
Maintain some privacy initially - no need to share too many personal details straight away
Plan your journey home in advance
Take things at your own pace - there's no rush to invite someone to your home

Taking Care

Keep your wits about you with alcohol - a glass of wine for Dutch courage is fine, but stay clear-headed
Listen to your instincts - they're usually right!
Share personal information gradually as trust builds
Keep work details and contact information private until you feel completely comfortable

Good things often take time. Stay safe, trust your judgment, and enjoy the adventure of finding new companionship. After all, some of life's most wonderful relationships can begin at any age.